Some boring woman is divorcing her husband in California because she says he spends too much time playing World of Warcraft, ignoring her in the process. Boo-hoo lady, that man is having the time of his life either raiding or getting wicked PVP gear. What do you want him to do, sit down, after his long day at work and watch Lipstick Jungle with you? Or maybe you want him to spend the warm, sunny afternoon with you at the park? Newsflash, honey, this man’s house has a climate control system: if he wants it to be hot inside, it shal be hot; if he wants to build an igloo, it shall be so. Why should he be bothered to enjoy the day outside when he’s just as well enjoying the day inside?
OK, so the guy stopped paying bills, too, but you know that ol’ selfish woman just wanted to monopolize that man’s time. He works hard, he plays hard.
Rubbish.
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Am I wrong in saying that this is at least a few days old? I remember reading it on digg like, forever ago.
I think that it is very very sad that people are divorcing over a game. I also think it is very very weak for a man or woman not to be able to stop playing World of Warcraft. I have played and I have not played. I play maybe an hour a week or less, am I awesome at the game, no…but I will not give up everything else in my life to play hours and hours in order to be. My significant other is bout to get the boot if thay don’t chill up on the game, its their life and nt mine, so its their choice good home and family of an apartment and WOW, perhaps wow will win, lol. SM
I think WOW is so addicting to some people that they would chose WOW, but lie and say no it was something else that caused my life to fall apart, just as its not the literal Alcohol or Drug or Person, that ruins the relationship it is the persons addiction to it, whatever “IT” may be.
Whatever world this kid lives on/in, your sure to bet that he is one very unpopular and stupid kid! What you people don;t realize is that this is a game, that’s it, a game! When you can’t be happy about spending time outdoors or with the ones you love, that’s when it becomes and addiction. Addictions are never a good thing. I’m sure you love to play this game but I’m also pretty damn sure that you don’t have many friends outside of this virtual world. I feel sorry for you, I truly do and I hope that if you continue to play this game that you don’t take a girlfriend ( if it is even possible for you to get one ). You would only try and bring her down to your level and hope that she too stops enjoying life to it’s fullest. Keep playing kid but hopefully someday you will find that there is more to life
I take it the author of this article/post is none other than a ‘man’? I betcha he spends alot of time with his “palm pilot” too.
i really despise you people! millions of people are divorced worldwide for many reasons but when there is one that mentions WoW, you people couldn’t resist scapegoating it. I bet right now you people are clucking on about how terrible and awful the game is! That is called scapegoating, or is that too big a word for you simple minded people. I am 16 and I play WoW. I also have a beautiful girlfriend and many friends. What you people perceive as a typical WoW player is so stereotypical its hilarious!Grow up
I think what some people are basically saying here, is that when people put this game before every day life, and let it interfere with personal relationships by playing for hours on end, thats a problem. And yes, it could absolutely lead to divorce. You being 16 and having a highschool relationship, living assumingly under your parents roof, may not understand at this point the social awkwardness wow MAY bring into someones life. I’m actually speaking from experience, unfortunately. Here I am pregnant, engaged, and living with my fiance. However, my fiance is addicted to wow, playing it non-stop. This unfortunately is NOT an over-statement. The only time he stops playing is to sleep a couple hours. I have played the game and I myself have a toon. I enjoy it, but like i mentioned, not to the extent that it causes me to neglect my fiance. It becomes sad when I realize I’m not only talking to myself, but sleeping alone, while my fiance is still playing wow, all hours of the night. AND no he does not have a job. So, yeah, I most certainly agree there is an addiction that can come hand-in-hand with this game. It doesn’t have to. But it can. It becomes extremely sad when I have to be scared and put taxi information in my phone , so that when I go into labor, if he is playing wow, and will not pull himself away, I have a fall back.
Poor poor nieve James. My friend you say things like that because you are only 16 and have not yet experienced the world and are incoherent of what you speak of. Please stay in school and pray you can gain some common sense from some of these posts!
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Thank you Kendra for putting it so perfectly. James please PLEASE take the warning you read here, you are only 16 so you don’t have a wife and two children that you are about to loose and make sure and learn from people that are in that situation!!!
oh god, I of course am not implying that this addiction is in anyway a good thing. What I am angered at is the fact that when something is WoW related it becomes a much bigger issue!
I feel that, what this divorce comes down to is neglect due to the addiction and not because of addiction to WoW.
My bf of 2 yrs. Is addicted to WoW. I understand how this happens. While I agree that the concept is amazing, and story line is fascinating, it can be very damaging to ones life and outside relationships. Here is what I believe… You must have a pre-disposition to addiction. He played when we met two years ago, but not to the extent he does now. He has had on-line sexual relationships with females, and at one point believed he was ” in love” with a guild member. I have been more than understanding, given up time together, watched him play for hours, and let him maintain friendships with the girls he’s cyber’d with. My decision. Also my decision… To find someone who loves and puts me first before his game. He’s lost his friends because of it, his family because of it and won’t look for a job because of it… Now he can loose me too. Then he can loose his car and his house… But he’ll always have his level 70! I am in the medical field, and this is a true synopsis of what addiction is.
I dont know if you will read this but I just went thru the exact same thing like you did. I thought I was the only one and something was wrong with me and after reading this I kinda understand. My situation was is I had to break off my engagement due to the fact my ex-fiance said he was in love with a girl off of his guild and turned out she is 17 and 3000 miles away from where we lived. So now I am living with family and he is shacked up with friends locking himself in the basement playing WOW for 12hrs. Now he says he is in a relationship with this girl..he is a 27 yo man(boy). Wow ruined a great relantionship and has mentally scarred me, I’m seeing a therapist now because I am depressed and it has caused my nerves and anxiety to flare up. if anyone knows of a forum about this could they email it too me at deedaroo79@gmail.com…thank you
maybe if she was more exciting than a video game she wouldnt have the problem in the first place ;) GIRLS, try making urself look like a female blood elves and learn the dance…. role play it up! lol or tell him if he doesnt stop, ur going to go have ur own 10 man raid in the bedroom…and they are going to wipe on moroes like he does (if u get my drift)
Exactly,If they want their husband to actually want to spend time with them they need to be more fun than the game.
This is the dumbest thing anyone ever could say.. It shows how much you are drawn away from reality.. You make a commitment to wife first and then to kids. F…… keep it. It is just a game. How does a woman need to make sure she is looking good all day long with all the responsibiltys that are left for her, while her husband sits infront of the computer, and dont even think it is nessecary to brush his teeth. Way to go.. Ya are so wrong, and I hope it comes back to bite ya in the ass. Think out of the box, dont be so selfish..
first off i have a husband that im very annoyed with that plays wow fromt the time he comes home to the time he goes to bed every single night and ontop of it he has sundays off and plays wow all day long while i work and take care of are two kids so its not a joke and its not funny im almost 21 and hes going to be 24 this year its pathetic and he dont even have real job and he dropped out of college so im getting ready to go to college and his parents help me take care of my kids so he can play wow im sick of that game and who ever evented it needs to burn in u know what ….
If you prefer to watch some made up cartoon on the computer and pretend you are “dancing” with it instead of your girl sitting in the other room then I bet you don’t have enough common sense not to stick your pecker into the garbage disposal either.
For you to say that a woman should be more exciting or role play like on the game proves that you are very immature, unintelligent and know nothing about real life. Maybe if you got off of your computer and participated in
RL..thats real life to those of us who participate in it. You know…work 2 jobs, lose your house anyway, survive cancer, take care of a family…socialize with real people..not a keyboard, you might not decide to make idiotic comments like that! Read up on “addiction, or “addictive behavior and you might begin to understand the illness we are truly dealing with!! Addictions ruin lives, and WOW is an addiction! Look in the new diagnosis book for mental health care providers…you might want to look up internet addiction! My husband already went thru rehab once for addictive behavior…it didnt work..he stil plays wow…and its ruining our chance of a future! So grow up, and learn that life is more than a mindless videogame!! Dont you dare blame these women! Most are good, loving wives who are married to an addict!!!!!!
I am truly enjoying all the semi-literate posts here, which only tends to prove that WoW aficionados neglect other, more important aspects of their lives such as CONSTRUCTING SIMPLE SENTENCES.
Here’s a simple, clearly constructed and properly spelled sentence for you children: GET A F*CKING LIFE!
I was addicted to WoW for 2 years…I believe it’s completely possible to become addicted.
Of course anyone else who is addicted is going to side with the husband in this story, they have no idea that anything is wrong.
Those on the outside will have a much better chance seeing what problems can arise from someone spending all their free time in a video game when they have a real life to tend to. This guy deserved to be divorced, now he can be alone and worry about his EPIC Tier 6 gear. So sad…
Get a life people, gaming is not the end all be all.
haha i gotta direct a lol in shauns direction! :D
It goes both ways. My girl friend was addicted to WoW, we both were for awhile. It was hot, a gamer chick, rare magical thing that is. But, when I quit WoW shortly after the expansion she stayed. I didn’t mind in the beginning, but, after a move she didn’t get a job, her weight sky rocketed. She wouldn’t do anything but play WoW. From hours sitting when we would go to the store she would become fatigued after only a half an hour. I was worried about her health and when she refused to spend even a few minutes a day standing, walking, or not sitting in front of the computer I left her. The way she’s going it’s a serious health concern and I don’t think she will survive the looming heart attack..
I know a woman who is so miserable in her life, it’s no surprise her 43+ yr old boyfriend that lives with mom would rather play WOW then go listen to her complain. Life isn’t going to be the Notebook all of the time. We are individuals. If you didn’t like it, you should have stayed single. Marriage doesn’t mean we have to stop our “self”
ya but a guy has to do sumtin other than play WOW 24/7 duznt he? or did god make us just to play games and 4get about life 24/7
I am currently dating a WoW addict. For 6 months he played constantly. He stopped going to visit his family,quit 2 jobs, and was so into the game he wouldn’t come to bed with me. We didn’t have sex for 5 months he was so addicted. All that interested him was that stupid game. Although if you talk to him he’ll tell you he wasn’t addicted, he was just filling up his spare time. Even though he only had that spare time free time because he refused to go out and do anything with me. It is as if he doesn’t realize that the sweet, funny man I fell in love with that didn’t play WoW when we first met had left. He didn’t want to go out to dinner or a movie, even if I offered to pay. The sweet things like flowers, or pictures (he’s a wonderful artist) stopped. Finally we decided we wanted to move to a smaller apartment so we would have lesss bills and he finally promised me and his mother 8 months ago to quit playing and he did. Then 5 months later we moved to a new town and he decided it was ok to break his promise and pick the game up again which really hurt my feelings because it was a promise I had trusted him to keep.I mean, I caught him sneaking the game onto the computer and he freaked out about how Im stupid for feeling like I have to compete with a video game. So I don’t beleive anyone when they tell me that the game does not consume people because I have experienced it firsthand through no fault of my own. I know I have tried everything to draw him back into the real world and it didn’t work. NOw I am left with the dilemma of what to do if things start getting that bad again since I know that our relationship hasn’t even recovered from it. Personally if it even gets a quarter as bad as it was, I am giving him an ultimatum..though I am pretty sure my heart will break into pieces when that day comes
what ever happened to you and your boyfriend Brit??? Im in the same situation…
I think it is quite natural on the woman’s part to do so. That man needs to get a life and focus on his family and wife instead of living in a virtual world.
u r so rite, a real man luks to his family and close frends for support, not a screen and a bunch of techno frends who wud stab him in da bak for his lvl 70 account.
This game has/is ruining my son. He is addicted to the thing, but doesn’t see it. He has been married to his high school sweetheart for almost two years and they have a beautiful nine month old little boy, my son is a soldier in the National Guard and has no job other than drill with the guard once a month, he has been playing the game for almost two years night and day. His wife works two jobs and takes care of the baby. He rarely watches him for her to work, so I take him some days to my job, to give her a break. She left him yesterday because he chose the game over her and the baby. “It” is his drug, when he is not playing he is a much different person. I wish the game creators could be held responsible for ruining a marriage, taking a father from his child, my son from his family and taking a bright future and turning it into the darkside of hell. He now has nothing, nowhere to live, no job, no wife and child and no self-respect.
my husband is addicted to this game WOW he comes home from work at 5pm and plays until 2am in the morning. He is in the military so he has to wake up for pt test (physical traning) at 6am in the morning and blames it on me for him being tired. I rarely speak to my husband, I will try and talk to him and he will say the famous phrase “one more hour” and it will end up being 6-10hrs. we have two children ive tried using them to get him off the game, asking him if he could go with me to take the kids out, he says no he has to finish raiding which takes six hours no less. The last time I have actually fallen asleep with my husband next to was about 1 1/2 year ago. he even calls his friends by their wow names. He has 5 different characters, a paladin and some other shit. But you cant down something you havent tried, ive played the game, i dont see what the deal is… YOU ARE SPENDING “REAL” HARD EARNED MONEY ON SOME FAKE ASS VIRTUAL SHIT….. POINTLESS
i fell ur pain my best frnd, hes a gr8 guy and he’s a WoW addict, he says he ONLY play 2hrs a day, he duz this thing calld 6 to 6, he games nonstop from 6pm to 6am. we discussed it in class and he just acts like its funny and we just laugh but i realize that if he keeps it up he wont hav a life ahead of him. we wer talkin about our future jobs and he sed he wanted to be a bar tender and in da mornin he’ll game. :( i dunno wat to do. thinkin of threatinin him to not be my frend if he duznt quit. dat game scares me
I just broke up with with my Wow player his addiction to the game is worsening. He says he plays it to relax when he’s not working but I have a feeling it’s taking a life of it’s own. When you rather play a game than be with someone you supposedly love, there is definitely a problem. I know I can’t take it anymore and especially when he does not think there is a problem. Look, there is problem if something adversely effects to the point that you may have loss of job, relationships, hygiene,etc. that’s addiction point blank.
I don’t agree with divorcing…however I can see how that woman would get to that point. My husband is addicted and we just had our first child and our daughter screams whenever he picks her up because he nevers spends time with her. I have tried to tell him this and he doesn’t believe me…she seriously looks at him like he is a stranger when he picks her up. So, I guess people that play this game need to be sensitive to the person that they have a relationship with.
I can sympathize with this woman. I was totally ok with my husbands playing it while deployed, but now it consumes so much of his life that its down right sad. He doesnt want to even take care of his own son. He gets very heated when our son wants attention while he’s gaming. My husband plays between pt and work call, on his lunch break and from the time he gets home at 5 until about 12 to 1 at night. Its one thing to play for an hour or so a day, but it is quite another to neglect your entire family.
all my boyfriend does is play. everytime i am over at his house he has to `check if he has mail“. which means i have to play and see whos online basically. his excuse is i play because your doing homework. we are both in college and i attend all my classes and lately hes been skipping so many of his.
he used to work out everyday. and he doesnt anymore. he sits on his couch eats junk food and plays. i am worried about his school, his health, and our relationship.
this game is literally ruining our relationship. all we do is fight now. and he tells me im being to clingy cause i want to spend one day with him. and if i ask him to stop playing the game its a big deal, and im not letting him be free and make his own choices.
i am so close to breaking up with him. i dont want to feel shitty about myself because hes addicted to a game.
All you out there who has a relationship who has been ignoring you (if you are not married or have a child with them). I would love to spend time speaking with you.
Well not all of the people here are involved in serious relationships with the addicts in our life. They can also be close comrades of ours with whom we share a long history with, who are suddenly becoming distant, and all because they wrap themselves in a fake world that apparently seems much safer to them than the real world.
So I’m not exactly sure what you could offer when you say “I would love to spend time speaking with you.”
I have a boyfriend who play WoW constantly, I’m not married to him, or have any children with him. Help!
My boyfriend and a few close friends play wow all day. He doesnt sleep much, barely eats, and when ROTLK came out.. he played for like 48 hours straight. I cant take it. Hes unemployed, living at home with his mommy and does nothing to find a job. I’m in college.
I love him but i cant do this anymore.
Hey vanessa, Ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. when we first got together he was so loving, the flowers, spending all his time with me. Now I think i am just boring and a nag to him he thinks sex is quality time, it is our only time. Now i am pregnant with his first son and he doesnt seem to care. He says he is never going to stop playing, it is his passion. I told him of a funny dream I had that I thru his computer on the ground and cut the cord. He said if I ever did that he would leave me in a minute. I thought,Wow, leave your girlfriend and your first born for a computer game. Its to the point where I might leave him because Im scared he wont take care of me or the baby when it comes. Not to mention the complete lack of emotional support!What is with these “men”?
Me and my husband are former WOW addicts we both got to lvl 70, he had a warlock and i had a druid. Anyway he’s military and it took up way too much time to try and progress in the game and not have a real life! They make the game that way so you HAVE to play it all the time to get anywhere in it. We realized that and Quit it will be 2 years WOW free and we are so much happier now, out doing real things going clubbing together, scuba diving snorkeling, playing console games with friends and going to parties. Life is much better without WOW and now we are planning to start a family next year :)
gd 4 u ill tell ur story to my frnd, if only all WoW addicts thought dat way
I know exactly what you guys are talking about. I’ve been married to my husband for 3 years now and we have a beautiful 22 month old baby girl. For the first six months after we had her, he had a cyber-sexual relationship with a woman on the game. When I caught him, he denied it, even though he was caught red-handed. Then he promised he wouldn’t do it again. About 8 months ago he quit and about 5 months ago he started it back up. He ignores our child half the time. I come home from class and she is on her own playing and getting into stuff while he sits at that computer playing WoW. Half the time I’ll say something to him and ask him what I just said and he can’t repeat it. I’m talking to myself most of the time, going to bed alone, and am in charge of our daughter any time I’m home. He doesn’t really do anything with her though he claims he does. He plays when he gets up, allows an hour for himself to get ready for work and when he gets home from work, he gets back on there usually until 3 or 4 in the morning. I’m so sick of it and am torn because I know what I should do, but don’t know how I should do it. I hate this freaking game and have a feeling it will ultimately be the end of this family. And I have talked to him about it multiple times.
I’m only 16 years old, i play WOW, I realize thatI’m addicted, and I can see it effecting me. But what people need to understand that we do it not only for the game, but to avoid real life problems and stress. When we play (or should I say I), I feel like every stress linked thing has been taking off of me, and I can have fun with friends on Vent (talking to them) and doing things with them in the game. I hope you guys realize that when someone (for example: your husbands) it’s 70% of the time because of stress. Try to help them, give them advice, do something. or just lower their time on the computer. Talk them into it. Stress to me is moving away into a ghost town in Arizona with no normal people to hang out with and a terrible school.
I’m only 16 years old, i play WOW, I realize thatI’m addicted, and I can see it effecting me. But what people need to understand that we do it not only for the game, but to avoid real life problems and stress. When we play (or should I say I), I feel like every stress linked thing has been taking off of me, and I can have fun with friends on Vent (talking to them) and doing things with them in the game. I hope you guys realize that when someone (for example: your husbands) it’s 70% of the time because of stress. Try to help them, give them advice, do something. or just lower their time on the computer. Talk them into it. Stress to me is moving away into a ghost town in Arizona with no normal people to hang out with and a terrible school.
I have struggled with a video game addiction so I can shed some light on this topic.
First off video games (including WoW) were meant to be a fun pass time not a substitution for RL. The virtual world is so much more inviting than RL so it’s incredibly easy for people to get sucked into it.
Secondly: Until a boy understands love he will never be a man. Love is an action not the words “I love you.” Love is time. Love is emotional. Love is NOT just speaking. So saying you love your gf/fiance/wife then playing video games for close to or greater than the time spent with the person you “love” is not love at all. In fact your love is for the video game.
Lastly please take this post to heart. I am a recovering video game addict. With the support of my wife, family, friends and God I have cut down my video game playing to 4hrs a week. This has made me more involved in my family life and getting me prepared for babies and my future by allowing me time to spend in those areas.
Blessings to you,
Matthew
i know exactly what you guys are saying and i agree with you completely…the game is addicting my boyfriend of going on 6 months is totally addicted to WoW.everytime i go to his house to spend time with him he is always playing it and totally ignores me and when i say something to him about coming to pick me up so we can spend time together he makes up some lame excuse as to why he cant or yells at me and tells me that i am self centered and i act like he owes it to me to come get me.he barely talks to me i text him constantly and he never replies back bc he is playing that stupid game.i have barely talked to him within the past couple of weeks and i haven’t seen him either and he acts like it doesn’t even bother him.he has gotten soooo much worse as the weeks go by, he gets more and more addicted to it and we are fighting constantly and it has gotten to the point where i am about to break up with him bc of it.
My two teenage sons and I have struggled with WoW addiction. My oldest son has almost failed out of college, but due to multiple “interventions,” like taking computer, deleting characters and giving me passwords, he is OK for now. All the terms and aspects of addiction apply here – relationships suffering, school and work suffering, lying to loved ones, doing anything to get “one more hour.” I believe my marriage suffered from my WoW-playing, and miraculously my job didn’t, but fortunately I have recognized the problem and dealt with it by quitting. Just like an alcoholic who can’t have “one drink,” a WoW addict can’t play “just a little;” he or she has to quit. And just like a drug addict, even in recovery, who will always still want to get high, I still miss WoW and would love to play, even though I know its no good for me.
My younger son, on the other hand, seems to handle it. He does play a lot, everyday, is on Vent, etc., and that’s his social life, but this includes several RL friends, not just WoW friends and guildies. On the other hand, he maintains decent grades, does some extra-curriculars and holds down a job.
The previous posters are correct: you cannot do something 6,12,18 hours a day and not short-change some other aspect of your life.
People who play wow so much are not stupid…but trying to escape reality. In the virtual World of WoW they can be anything…Disappointments fade quickly and they get more chances… They play because they are unhappy…All in all -an addiction usually covers up other underlining issues… Wow is no different. WOW is a cover to some other issues in the person’s life. The person who is getting divorced or has relationship issues needs to know that WOW is not the problem but that the person is longing for something or has a void that is not being met. I hope that the person can get him or herself straight before the damage has its toll.
I am addicted to World Of Warcraft – I never play for less that 6 hours a day, and atleast 24 hours over a weekend period – however, I still manage to maintain contact with the outside world and don’t let my job get in danger. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being addicted to WoW, you just have to try your best to free up enough time for IRL so that you can earn enough money to pay the subscription and rent. You have to think of it like this:
* If you fail at IRL, this may affect future wow playing adversely.
Ruki
Break the CD’s in half yourself
throw them out
start your new REAL life
I am sure that some of the women on here are true victims of online addiction and that their men are morons that would rather slay murlocs then spend quality time with their wives and families. However, I am equally certain that some of the ladies here may be in a different camp of women who drove their men to the computer screen with their bitching and nagging.
I meet many of the characteristics of the men descrbed above. I am 28, a veteran, and I spend about 20 hours a week playing world of warcraft. I have an active social life, a good job with great benefits, a college education, and I have never had a problem getting laid. I picked the game up when it came out and put it down two years ago when I got into a serious relationship with a woman who was needy and psychotic. After I dumped her I decided to pick up the keyboard to fill my time and I can say with 100% confidence that I could not be happier with my decision.
Life is stressful enough without some bitch breathing down your neck insisting that you spend 6 days a week together decorating and scrapbooking. It is quite possible that some of the women here drove their men into a fantasy world because they introduced needless stress into their lives by insisting that their boyfriends/husbands spend too much time with them and not enough time relaxing and unwinding in whatever fashion suits them.
Ladies, ask yourselves these questions. Did the addiction begin before or after you got together? Does you man have responsibilities like work and children that create the need for these diversions? Do you interact with your man in a way that makes you an asset or are you a liability? If you answered yes to these questions then if it wasn’t WoW it would be drugs, television, strip clubs or whatever addiction your man had a predisposition to.
I have resolved to stay single for six months to recover from the mess that was my previous relationship. I am more than willing to give up a few hours a week of gaming to spend time with a special lady. When i do go back on the prowl I will be looking for a woman who has enough sense to go out and spend a few days a week with her friends pursuing her own interests so that I can pursue mine. If she starts to smother me then she will be lonely.
You folks are not alone. I, myself, am dealing with a World of Warcrap addict right now. My ex and I remained close friends even after we decided our relationship wasn’t working out. She and I always made time to chill, and talk every night. Well, then along comes WoW. Initially it wasn’t so bad…since she was only playing an “evaluation” version or whatever it was, that eventually ran out and asked her to pay for a full version. So, what happens next…she took a bunch of cash she got from an out of court settlement (she was in a minor car accident a few weeks ago), to buy – get this – a SECOND computer JUST TO PLAY WORLD OF WARCRAP! Ever since the day that second computer arrived, it’s like she’s a different person altogether. Apparently she has been shutting out anyone who doesn’t spend their every minute playing this game, either not taking their calls or snapping at them for “calling so much.” Bear in mind, these are friends who are checking up with her to see how she has been doing since they pretty much never hear from her anymore. I know when I last spoke to her, I inquired about how everything has been with her, and she snapped! She was like, “Why is everyone acting so concerned??? I’m just playing my game!!!”. I hadn’t even IMPLIED anything about WoW, but I guess others have been calling her out about it and she’s become uber-protective of her precious virtual world. It’s pretty damn pathetic, if you ask me. She doesn’t sleep much, spends days and nights playing the game, and doesn’t have any desire to see anyone who gives a damn about her, since she’s so busy with this boring little game. She’s shutting out the real world in order to be coddled in a fake virtual world that she can control, since it would appear she has none over the real one. I’ve given up on even bothering to contact her, and will continue to do so until she kicks this sad and pathetic habit of hers.
I feel so sorry for anyone who has someone who just gaveup on life because of this game. My wife spends at less 30 hours a week, that i know of. 3 days this month alone my kid didn’t go to school because my wife was to tired to get her ready. she starts playing at night and 3 or 4 am she will come to bed, oh by the way she is always tired and don’t know why. I love her, i really do but it’s hard to keep this up. I come home from work and most of the time she’s asleep or just sitting around cause she’s tired. while the kids are doing what ever. if it was just me she wasn’t spending time with that’s one thing but she is not taking care of my kids and that hurts.
Thank you for letting me vent time to put the kids to bed.
Maybe it’s better for couples to know their partner’s hobbies. I better find a gamer as well, at least we’d spend our time together in game and RL making wow gold and leveling.
I am having a dilemma I want to know if i should leav e my husband he is an wow addict who doesnt beleive hes one the all night gaming all day after work neglecting me and sometimes his kid he doesnt care if im even about to die he would sit there and play not caring how its affecting me I dont know what to i have tryed disposing of the problem then it becomes violent physically and emontionally pls help im out of options
Some people do not realize what their spouses addiction can cause. My husband is addicted to online games and i got to say after years of dealing with him playing all the time, not spending any time with our child that is almost 5. Im finally thinking about leaving. I mean why stay in a marriage without 50-50 support and help. Everything my son and i do, i can do it alone and probably be alot happier.
I was addicted to online games back in the early 90s when they were all text-based. I had just graduated from college, but didn’t know what to do with my life, and was in a dead-end relationship with no future and had no idea how to start myself out in the real world. So yes, I can vouch for the fact that I played online to escape the realities of life, and ruined myself in the process.
Thankfully, I learned my lesson years ago. I do play WoW now, but in moderation, maybe 2-3 hours each evening, and maybe longer if my wife is working the evening shift (we have no kids and don’t plan on any, so this is an acceptable use of my time).
But I also make sure I know how to turn the computer off. I have a regular job I’ve held for 15 years, I make sure get to bed at a reasonable hour every night, even on weekend nights, (never let my wife go to bed alone unless she is sick and wants to do so really early), make sure to do my share of cooking and chores, visit the gym to get my exercise, and go to numerous social events.
Nearly every pleasure has its addicts (just look at food, sex, alcohol, gambling, soap operas, caffeine, and sugar to name a few), and I agree that WoW is no different, but as with other pleasures, I believe the great majority of WoW players are like me, and really DO play as a diversion once in a while and not because they can’t stop. When you look at the number of people in the world who indulge sometimes in all of the above, versus the addicts, the addicts only account for a small percentage.
Unfortunately, it’s this small percentage of addicts that give the whole of the world a bad rap, because all of the rest of the pleasures above are old news that have already been beaten to death by the media. WoW, being relatively new, is just the latest convenient target and is no different from any other addiction.
Well, all you girls who complain about your husband playing wow, why don’t you decide to play with him? Why does he have to do what YOU want, why don’t you do what HE wants for a change and stop nagging on him?
Of course, most kids, men and some women would much rather play video games than go outside and of course do their homework. This just might be why kids and adults are starting to get smarter in this day and age. Believe it or not, video games build your intellegence, it is a proven fact. When a child or anyone else for that matter plays a video game, they are giving their game a pretty healthy workout that is good for them and at the same time, they are exercising their fingers.
Everyone is navigating their way around a virtual world that is mysterious and I personally see nothing wrong with this. In video games, we will have to figure out the rules of the game and the goals we need to achieve in order to learn. For hours, we can work at puzzles that are found nested within the game.Yep, today’s culture is definatly making us smarter. “Telescoping” it is called. Gamers have to deal with their immediate problems while at the same time, they keep their long-term goals in their mind.”Probing” it is called. Probing is referring to the strategic thinking and complex problem solving of video games.
Playing video games is parallel to working on a science project. Gamers are just like students who are working in a science laboratory, they must come up with that hypothesis. For example, they have to find that quest in World of Warcraft. With this, they are engaging in action by hunting for that quest and then completing it. The gamers will be discovering if their hypothesis is true or false. if they are not able to complete this quest, then they will be revising their hypothesis. Playing video games is a fundamental to learning.
The brain is able to change with practice, so yes, practice does make perfect. When you train yourself to do a certain task, part of the brain that is involved in performing that task is going to grow in size and also activity. There have recently been scientific studies, that people who use their brain more (in this case, playing video games) have a 46 percent decrease of developing dementia. When it comes to playing video games, it is a lot like learning a new kind of visual language. Unlike reading a book, when an indivdiual plays a video game, they are engaging in active exploration. Video gamers force their brains to make those decisions. Sure, reading can activate that imagination, but video games will teach an indivdiual how to think by forcing you to weigh the evidence in, consult your long term goals, analyze the situation and make a decision.
if wat ur sayin is tru will WOW make a guy hav da fitness to run a mile? my frend is obese but i kno dat its not cuz he’s unfit but becuz of dat game. will WOW get a steady income? will it cure a guy of heart attack? well maybe u think dat som dum game can help us but if u really r a human being u actually LEAVE ur house. u DIE wen a guy shoots u and dont respawn. u actually TALK to ppl without a mike or Wifi so get rid of dat HEALTHY bullshit and tell me emotional things WoW can do 4 a family.
Jesus, do you consider that the english language? For fucks sake, one could spend ten minutes deciphering that ridiculous “paragraph”.
While I agree, being a girl gamer myself, that playing games does provide benefits, I can’t help but read your post as nothing more than words from a delusional person trying to justify endless hours and days on Warcraft.
You are trying to justify the unjustifiable.
Angelgirl-You completly lost it.. Have you ever tried finding your goals in life instead of a game, you have the same challenges in life. What bills does WOW pay for you.. I will refuse to sit infront of the computer with my husband and play this game, while my 5 year old is in the kitchen and cooks her own meal, because WE are to busy. Snap out of it..
I play Wow a little bit in between work/school, etc. Several hours per day, a little more on weekends. Not married, no kids, in university for one more year.
Wow is fun and all, but it’s sort of…for kids. Children and teenagers get wild kicks from swearing, dueling, dancing nude (or nearly nude), cursing out older people for being less-than-perfect players, and so on; basically having the time of their lives without Real World responsibilities getting in the way. I see it like young folks moving away from home the first time–nobody to boss them around, and a whole world in which to play, roam, and explore. The thrill of freedom. Remember?
But–fun for kids and teens. It sounds cruel, but those who trade school, employment, and/or quality time with loved ones for Tier 7 gear have backward priorities. Video games like Wow separate us from everything we SHOULD be doing; however, if players manage their time properly, no problems arise. As an Honors student, an active member of the German club, a contributor to local and school publications, and one-half of a very fun 8-year relationship, I can assure you it IS possible to play Wow and have a real life. Sadly, it seems many players choose to ignore real life, disregarding it in favor of the transitory excitement games like Wow sometimes offer. In some cases Wow even supplants players’ reality, growing more vital to their happiness and well-being until Azeroth remains the sole world in which they can function, and the only realm in which they possess any tangible sense of accomplishment, individuality, or worth. Truly, I myself have known more than several players dependent on Warcraft for daily fulfillment. In other words, when their toon had a bad day, the players had a bad day. Wow actually governed these players’ moods, hence governing their state of mind and their daily sense of well-being. It was, and is, quite sad.
If one finds him or herself growing angry, upset, physically emotional, or depressed over Wow, it is troublesome regardless of age; if one finds joy in Wow alone, it is troublesome regardless of anything. I hate playing sports (because sports hate me), but a June day spent at Wrigley beats the pants off old Azeroth any time, “phat lootz” or otherwise. Boating may give us motion sickness, but we can always fish from the pier…
Children may be carefree, and most of us know how rapidly those careless days pass. Let the kids have their fun; let them have a blast over summer break, Christmas break, weekends! Let the youth revel in Wow and find thrill in it before Reality bites down on those same youth. Many teenagers may WILL disobey their parents and skip basketball practice for Wow raids. A good deal of college students WILL smoke pot and play Wow for thirty-six consecutive hours before taking exams. But we grownups…we gotta know when enough is enough. I hate taking out the trash, loading the dishwasher, doing homework, waiting in line at the DMV, and handing over my money to the taxman. But those distasteful tasks are important–essential, in fact. Keeping the view between reality and fantasy clear is the first priority for healthy Wow players.
IMO.
dan
I think the government has to step in before it’s way too late. WOW is destroying so many people. It’s probably one of the most addictive games ever created. I’m not a guy that usually does anything on a computer except college related things. My brother was playing WOW about 2-3 months ago so he got me to play it.For a week I was partially separated from reality.I even did very bad on one of my exams which is horrible because I’m in pre-med major. The good thing is that I deleted the game….
People personal advise stay away from games and especially wow….
Try activities, reading books anything, but not games.
LOL. How can you guys try and blame the gaming industry. Shutup your loved ones obviously have no will power. Leave them and get over it. They don’t have to ruin your life in the process as well.
everybody need to com there nerves wow is really a great game if you think not than your just hating on it or you havnt played it… its not just for geeks i play i play it alot and i have a girl that plays it and alot of friends some of my friends play it some wont give it a chance me and my girl play it together alot but we still have alot of sex i wouldnt let it drive me away from my family but if she tells me to stop playin i wont but i will still do my real life responsibilities too… maybe this game does consume your soul maybe it consume mine because i play it alot but im not gonna stop doing something i like it feels good playing wow so everyone stop hating
stop hating
I am seriously in the stages of possibly divorcing my husband of 27 years (and we were together for our young teen years before that), because of his addiction/too much time spent on it. this is no joke. He has had plenty of other addictions, off and on, and most of it involves technology/fantasy/pressing buttons.
I am one of the sexiest woman in my fairly large town, and I can orgasm often. I have made palenty of allowances for his “healing” himself and
trying to become a whole, grown man. And I love him and will always love him in all of his forms of growth, as I’m learning to for myself again.
But. there. is. a. limit.
I have read all this post, and find Nothing, Not One Word, about imposing time limitations when one has had enough.
For someone who thinks this stuff is teenage stuff, including all addictions (means you’re not grown up, so get help figuring it out, there is plenty out there). I believe in — Don’t live inside out, live abundantly, and full of joy which includes lots of exercise, chores, healthy food eaten together (salads you have to chop up together, and fruits you have to peel), laughter w/ family and friends you can touch and hand glasses of water or crystal lite to, etc. That sort of thing. And I’m getting back to it, thank God. I didn’t kill myself, or starve myself in depression. Miracle. My poor children. They have suffered.
We are going to be Legally Separated in about a month, and I am glad. Finally not so much control surrounding money. I let him get an attorney first, so he is not left with nothing, and I have a kind, but firm attorney.
We are expecting our first grandchild. We have 3 children. i went thru Hell, including deep depression DURING my/our daughter’s engagement as a result of fantasy addiction and ensuing money problems.
Living in a non-abundant way, produces non-abundance, and the ways of death,
here on this earth, in this life.
This is no joke.
Our 15 yr old has suffered the most, and has been living for some months with his sister & her husband 2 states away, now that she is pregnant, they want some time alone.
Anybody who answers with anger or smart remarks isn’t worth my time, and will be ignored.
i’ve heard it all along those lines.
I am a christian & spiritual woman, and am going to start a massage business, went to school for it finally. That will keep me out of affairs and keep me from marrying too soon. I have worked Years to get myself into this position where I am not Always low man on the totem pole, but I don’t want to be on top. i want him to go down this life path with me. The REAL life path, where water at the river feels good to touch, smell, hearing, tasting, and then sight.
True life is not truly about seeing things & pushing buttons.
I have had my buttons pushed long enough,
and I am headed to the pool & jacuzzi to swim naked alone, again.
I’m going to learn Jujitzu too, and get my black belt degree. I’d rather do it in real life, than in some fantasy world.
We’ll see what comes of it.
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Do you think if I say I can stand it played in my apartment for less than 2 hrs a day, that he might be willing to compromise? 6 hrs total on weekends?
we are in counseling already.
We have been separated for a year and 1/2.
I do not close him out of my apartment or my bed.
i dont think saying that to him will help. I wish it would though. I am in your shoes and nothing has helped.
to james (& everyone) — what would be NOT scapegoating to you? Do you agree that that is a cop-out, to say that everyone is scapegoating all the time? if you think they are scapegoating about the wow game, when are they Not scapegoating?
Oh, maybe when they’re talking in terms of hours and minutes spent on the computer vs. family and couple time, huh? If people say this much time together is not working for me, but this much time would be, why is that not adhered to in all love and fairness and kindness? That’s not scapegoating, that’s solving a problem fairly with each other.
If they or you truly want to be spiritual people which this game is encouraging, then live it!
Be kind re: time on computer/limits,
Be fair re: time on computer/limits,
use the golden rule with family re: time limits on computer. Please.
And they say a time limit to them for what they want to do with you in real life, that is really really generous, over and over, to change their life a bit, and keep lots of love & kudos flowing!
Try it, it works.
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My marriage is hanging by a thread, my husband and I are in counseling due to his WOW addiction and his refusal to share a life with me. This has been ongoing for the last two years. He spends about 4 -5 hours daily Mon-Fri and all day weekends on WOW– it’s as if he has 2 full time jobs. So of course he has no time for me or family. Didn’t even visit his mom for over 6 mos until I made him go, and she just lives down the street! When it got so bad that we had virtually no intimate life, I knew it was time to wake him up. He refuses to admit his addiction, and initially refused counseling, but then relented when we had a HUGE blowup after I hid the computer power cord. He told the counselor that WOW is his passion, and he has no desire to spend his time with me. I am a Christian and he professes to be, but he is blinding himself to what God expects him to be as a husband. I have struggles with depression, in addition to health problems, and after 30 YEARS marriage not sure if we will make it. At first his playing was minimal then suddenly he was hooked big time! WOW is just as potentially destructive and addictive as any other “real” addictions like drugs, alcohol, porn, etc. The only difference is that it is more socially acceptable. But the real tragedy is that these WOW addicts are spending their lives in exchange for a fantasy life that will only satisfy them momentarily, always promising more, but never delivering the fulfillment that a loving relationship with a spouse and family can offer.
I can understand what the critics here are saying and feeling about the game and those that play it. However, a little food for thought:
On the plus side: If you really do play warcraft as entertainment for your spare time, it is quite economical. ~$13 a month is much cheaper than going out and shopping for [unnecessary] materials. It is cheaper than just about any other entertainment. It is cheaper than wooing a cohort.
The ‘game’ reasons people play Warcraft have been broken into 4 categories. Explorer, Killer, Socialite, Achiever. Explorers want to see all there is in a new world. Killers like the challenge of head to head combat. Socialites like the interaction with others online. Achievers enjoy trying for and obtaining things to show others how much they’ve done.
More importantly, the reason people play this game so much may well be a desire to escape from real life. A large number of military personel play this game. I can only imagine that being on a base somewhere with not much to do, this is a fine alternative. If you are not socially adept – what better place to be than in an anonymous fantastic world. If you are undesirable, whether by self decree or by social stigma, the same reason applies. If your current situation causes you discomfort, escape is a good recourse.
So perhaps these players have not made the best choice(s). But a look at the situation may be beneficial – rather than brazenly pointing the finger.
Funny, everyone here is complaining about this “addiction.” First, most of you know what you are getting into before you marry the wow addicted person (I said most since sometimes it comes on later or the addiction gets worse). Like I said most chicks know what they are getting into when they marry a wow addicted man, but prefer to believe he will get over it or whatever. That is all fine and dandy but you call the 16 year old naive when you guys yourself are the naive ones. James appears to be one of the few on this forum that actually knows what is going on. I have a very dissimilar problem. I myself am a 25 year old female wow player. Not really an addict since I can stop and have stopped when needed to or wanted to, but I like to play a lot. Guess what I don’t have any kids or a husband, and I would love a wow addicted boyfriend cause we would share similar interests. My problem is finding a wow male player that isn’t a complete loser. Maybe that comes with the territory? Whatever I would say the perfect guy is one that holds a job, plays wow, and loves to have sex a lot then we are good. Perfect relationship, no need to talk we have wow!
where are you from? I know tons of men for you! lol
I think that I’m blessed somehow :D…. I was playing WOW for 1 month and then, I started to get bored by playing like an idiot, running 55% of the time to quest and get back to the camp/city and thinking that “When I get max. lvl, full epic gear, what shall I do?”….. So just think about what will you do when you max. out all of your skills, get the full tier set (I don’t know in the new expansion what’s the number of the best tier), get all the mounts, getting the highest rank in the guild you are, completing all the achievements………… This is an endless game! I am an 15 years old boy and I must say that the WoW is a stupid game, made exactly to lose time to pay money to Blizz so it makes addictive because you wanna get max. lvl. in a fast way, to not pay so much (FOR EXAMPLE: 10 hours/day maybe you can lvl. up to 45 or more in a month = 20$,,, 1 hour/day maybe you can make lvl. 45 in 6 months = 120$)……. So I must thank to God for showing me that the REAL LIFE HAS MORE PLEASURES THAN A GAME…. I mean, in game you can’t feel a kiss, you can’t feel a real laugh or a real hug from a real friend……. Behind the game are peoples that you haven’t met before so you can’t be much happy of that……
Question: Now tell me what will you choose?
1. A girlfriend that really loves you and just a little kiss from her makes your whole body feel her love
OR
2. A virtual blood elf female that you haven’t met her in real life and maybe behind that character can be a male LOL and you flirt with it thinking that the real person is hotter like the character.