Comments on: Woman divorces husband over World of Warcraft addiction

By: Jeri

Jeri — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 16:46:18 +0000

I too am one of you spouses who’s spouse is addicted to this game. I have tried everything short of breaking his computor and now thinking divorce, I agree that this is just a game and the person addicted has issues other then the game, but they hide instead of getting help. We partners have to dicide what is best for us you can only change yourself not someone else. I say we partners out here in the real world should get together and have real fun and leave our partners to there make believe life.

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By: Sophie

Sophie — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 12:31:09 +0000

Kat- My husband only plays one day a week now and it is a day I am not at home. So It worked. It is going to be hard but, be patient with him. Like I said it is a sickness. Unfortiounetly alot of men in america have contracted it. Yuck! but, I belive that God was a major factor in my husbands desier to quit. I prayed a whole lot. and like I said, It worked. I will be continually praying for your husband kat. I hope he realizes what a great wife he has that loves him so much she wants to see him through this. and if he dosent now, he will. Trust me I truely know :)

By: Kat

Kat — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 17:24:02 +0000

Angelgirl-You completly lost it.. Have you ever tried finding your goals in life instead of a game, you have the same challenges in life. What bills does WOW pay for you.. I will refuse to sit infront of the computer with my husband and play this game, while my 5 year old is in the kitchen and cooks her own meal, because WE are to busy. Snap out of it..

By: Kat

Kat — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 16:40:13 +0000

This is the dumbest thing anyone ever could say.. It shows how much you are drawn away from reality.. You make a commitment to wife first and then to kids. F…… keep it. It is just a game. How does a woman need to make sure she is looking good all day long with all the responsibiltys that are left for her, while her husband sits infront of the computer, and dont even think it is nessecary to brush his teeth. Way to go.. Ya are so wrong, and I hope it comes back to bite ya in the ass. Think out of the box, dont be so selfish..

By: Kat

Kat — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 16:24:31 +0000

It breaks my Heart to read your story. It brings tears in my eyes, because this is you writing my story.. I am at the end of my robe, I dont know where this will go. I know you wrote this a while back, did things change for you and your family? My husband will deploy soon, and took leave to ’spend time with family’, and WOW is all he is doing. I hope things got better with you and your family. Write me if you like. My husband has been addicted since April’09. I pray for you Kat

By: Kat

Kat — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 16:07:06 +0000

Sophie, thank you for your kind words. I will defenetly take everything you said to heart. Sometimes I am ready to give up, but I refuse to give up without knowing I tried everything there is. I will do what you said.. And hope for the best. The best of luck to you as well. How is it going, I mean is your husband still addicted that much? Did he stop, or lowered the time he is playing? Thank you again, I am glad that there is people out there like you that do understand the other side of the picture.

By: james Eire

james Eire — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 15:59:41 +0000

No Mr anonymous, “god” didnt make us like that because God doesn’t exist

By: james Eire

james Eire — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 15:55:38 +0000

Kendra just proved my point that her kind are simple minded. You spelt naive wrong toolbag.
p.s Ive had a steady girlfriend for the past three years, play on one of the top rugby teams in leinster and manage to study and go out at weekends. Some people just cant prioritise

By: Sophie

Sophie — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 13:37:52 +0000

Kat- Belive me, If anyone knows how you feel its me. but, don’t give up on him. It’s just like any other addiction. It’s a sickness. and remember in sickness or in health. It does hurt like hell!!! I have a suggestion. when he plays wow, leave your house take the kids to the park or visit family but men tend to associate if your there, they are spending time with you. When your not there they will start to wonder what is going on and miss you cause in their mind they are not spending time with you. Its not a game, That is just the way mens minds work. That was the first step I took when getting my husband to stop and It was given to me from a friend who had goten her husband to stop cause it was really bad for her too! also keep a log of his time on the computer so you can show him. I am telling you this world of warcraft has ruined alot of marrages. I refused to let it beat me. I encourage you to do the same. I will be praying for you kat My heart genuinly goes out to you!!!! <3

By: Kat

Kat — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 09:08:31 +0000

You know I have a husband that seems not to beable to stop this game. I dont blame her at all. We have a family, and he just will not get of the computer to join any functions in schools or any other things. He will stay up til late at night, well early mornings and sleep all day. Missing out on the family. He will be to late for work, and all kinds of things. I dont mind him playing, I like to sit infront of the computer myself. But i couldnt do it for hours at the time. It frustrates me, because he dont understand where i am coming from. I bitch to much, he would say.. I dont know how to make it clear to him, that there is a problem, and that I miss him. He took leave because he wanted to spend time with his family before he gets deployed, but what did he do instead? Thats right WOW, at all times. It makes me wanna leave, because I dont know it want place we are in his life. There is other things to do, besides this. It makes me feel like he is putting us on the backburner, and that hurts. It is just a game, you can start where you left off, but your life will go on, and every second will be gone. Is this worthed?

By: Sophie

Sophie — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 07:38:23 +0000

My husband used to play everyday for hours on end I would never see him I missed him I spent hours alone in my room crying, I became very depressed. I could not even eat. till I said you know what It’s time to do something and the awnser is to not give up. first I tryed playing world of warcraft with him. I got board. then I decided to show him how important he was to me and how awesome life could be without gaming. we went to disney land and vegas in one week. and I prayed hard about his heart changing. I never really discussed his problem with family members or friends beacuse I wanted to show him he could trust me and I respected him and honerd him So, I shared it with God. My husband still playes but, its is 1 day a week that is my go out with girl days and his game day and now he cant get enough of me. Thanks Jesus!

By: Lonely

Lonely — Thu, 28 May 2009 02:56:14 +0000

My husband play WOW alot.
He is a stay at home dad and I’m a working mom. We have 2 kids together. He take care of the kids, cook and clean. I do what every working mother does, help out. I help him take care of our kids and clean.
However, whenever I come home from work. I always find my husband on the computer playing WOW. He spend alot of his waking hours playing that game. Every night, he stay up until 3 to 5 o’clock in the morning, playing WOW.
I go to sleep by myself every night. I watch TV by myself. When I ask him to stop playing that game. He told me what is the different if he is playing game or watching TV. He is in the same room with me. Why does it make a difference if he play game or not. He couldn’t understand why I wanted him to watch TV with me. I told him I wanted to spend time as a family. He told me that he is in the same so it doesn’t matter if he playing game or watching TV.
This had been going on for awhile. I feel very lonely. We had been together for 12 yrs. I question my marriage and worries for my kids. I don’t want them to grow-up in a broken home. I just want him to cut back on the amount of time he play that game but he doesn’t think that he spend that much time on it.

By: thomas (goodapollo)

thomas (goodapollo) — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 15:54:20 +0000

ok, being a Wow playing myself, i ave to say it is addiction.
but i tihnk when you ignore your wife and stop providing to the point on divorce, it’s just kind of sad.
acctually… its really really sad.

-Goodapollo- Doomhammer`Alliance

By: Laney

Laney — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 01:48:33 +0000

You are trying to justify the unjustifiable.

By: Spekkio

Spekkio — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 01:10:28 +0000

Hi all.

The accounts of many here both sadden and, well, sadden again me for a second reason. The first is the most obvious; It’s terrible to learn of all these situations where relationships don’t work out because of a videogame. The second may not be understood by most, but it is the one i’d like to elaborate on further:

I consider myself a ‘veteran’ gamer of 25 years. I’ve seen and played everything you can think of: From tetris to FF7; From Pong to the Jaguar VR Prototype. And I’m about to bash WoW for all it’s worth. I’m no addiction councelor, but somehow I hope my comments might help to convince addicts in this case to see the folly of their ways.

WoW is about ‘leveling’, which means playing to improve your character (or avatar): You do something often enough, and you get better at it. Kill monsters, and you become stronger, etc. And this, in a nutshell, is all there is to this game.
Now don’t get me wrong. This is certainly nothing new in gaming. Role Playing Games basically hinge on this idea. You can’t just walk up to the villain and send him packing. First you have to do a lot of work to strengthen your character(s), so they can take him on. This is part of the challenge. And it feels rewarding. You put in the effort, and then get the reward, or payoff. Eventually this leads to confronting the final challenge of a game and beating the bad guy. The world is saved, and that’s it.
This is where WoW differs from traditional RPGs. There is no ending, no climactic event, no showdown to look forward to. It’s almost like going back to the early days of gaming when games didn’t end, but only the highscore mattered; Anyone ever “finish” tetris? Because of this principle I never have, or ever will, play WoW, though I’ve seen enough of it in action to know what I’m talking about. I’ve played a ton of rpgs that had me enjoying the rewards of leveling; You learn new tricks, access new areas in the game, etc. It felt good reaping those rewards because you knew how much effort it would take anyone to get to that point.
But if you ask me, this has to lead to something; To some goal. In other words: to an END. Would you like to read a book in which the story kept building the suspense to…….more suspense, without ever ending? EVER? Would you like to keep reading this book untill you died, still not seeing the ending, since there simply wouldn’t be one?

It’s hard to explain the rewarding aspects of ‘leveling’ in rpgs to someone who doesnt play videogames. What it boils down to is that, however small the reward may be for whatever large amount of effort is required, you know how much work it took for yourself, and hence anyone else, and that represents the value of the reward you reap. And when those rewards make you feel good, while there’s a practically endless number of rewards, why stop rewarding yourself? It always feels nice to become ‘better’ at something, when you can see the improvement.
In WoW, these improvements are virtual. Inside the game your lvl80 deathknight or whatever may be impressive, but I like to ask this question: What if (and that’s IF, you “but they won’t” shouting ppl) Blizzard shut down Wow next week? What if your characters that you’ve spent (go add it up) so many hours on leveling, were suddenly gone? What IFFF that happened?

Now, to conclude: what have i got to add to this issue? If i were faced with a WoW addict that I’d like to ween off of the game, I would ask the following question: (and this incorporates expected answers/excuses)

Q: Why play so much?
A: So i can raid/farm/etc. (which means: level up)

Q: So what will you do when you complete this ?
A: Well then I can get this gear/access this area/level up.

Q: And when you get that? what will you do?
A: [proceed back to first question]

So that’s it: IT NEVER STOPS. There’s always some level or item to get, and then another, and another. And when you get close to getting everything, the developer releases another expansions pack. There have been two so far. And there shall be more, trust me.

I don’t play WoW, because i won’t fall for this kind of crap. And to those of you who would accuse me of hating, I repeat the question: What if WoW just stopped tomorrow? What will you have accomplished? Will you play till you die? And then what? Will you have your level and race etched into your gravestone?

By: Laney

Laney — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 19:53:14 +0000

Thank you Kendra for putting it so perfectly. James please PLEASE take the warning you read here, you are only 16 so you don’t have a wife and two children that you are about to loose and make sure and learn from people that are in that situation!!!

By: yukimon

yukimon — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 17:59:44 +0000

i just started playing this game and i really do like it :)
but i gotta say i’m not really addicted to this game ;p
my bf thought it was lame but he now even plays it with me and well im 17 and he’s 18 and we really dont have problems all because of a game.
:D

By: April

April — Sat, 18 Apr 2009 00:34:54 +0000

My husband is addicted to WOW and I understand this is a hobby for him but he has gotten more addicted to it as the years go on. He gets mad if I ask him to spend time with me? I asked him to join something with me that we both like? And he asked me to join WOW? I don’t want to play WOW, WOW is our problem I want to do something away from the computer. Something with our children? I don’t understand how someone can get addicted to a game? My husband has actually exchanged pictures of himself with his wow friends and I don’t agree with that at all. Why do you need to know what the other person looks like? Both times he exchanged his pic’s they ended up being with a girl????? And the worst thing is he used OUR wedding picture to exchange but cut me out of it? Now what’s that all about? These girls live in other states (so they say) but still why would you cut me out of the pic? I don’t want to spend the rest of my life alone with my kids while my husband plays wow? And I don’t think I should have to. Our children are suffering I’m not worried about me I’m worried about the kids? We have a special needs son that really needs his dad and I feel like he doesn’t get what he needs from him? It’s really sad when you pick a game over your family. I don’t care if he plays but I don’t want him to be on it 24/7. We work opposite shifts right now and you would think by not seeing me that much when I get home he would want to spend time with me but he just keeps playing his game? Im starting to have bad feelings towards him for this. What should I do? I have talk to him about it and he just laughs at me saying he’s not addicted?

By: Brysen

Brysen — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 06:28:10 +0000

So one of my childhood best friends is addicted to WoW. I am 21 years old and we have known each other since middle school. My friend knows that he is addicted, has admitted his life is going down the toilet, lost all his REAL friends (exept me cause i wont give up on him), and flat out says he doesn’t care!!! He doesn’t care he is losing every thing!!! Like any other addict drug or gambling he finds excuses for his actions and psychologically he convinces himself that it is “ok it all just a phase and i will eventually get over it”. Ya he might get ever it 1,2,5, maybey even ten years down the road and at the cost of his family and friends.
My friend has been playing for about a year or two now. I go to the University of Oregon and party with hotttttt chicks every weekend. he used to come down from Portland and hang out but not any more. I even hooked him up with a very attractive and ridiculously horny girl who really liked him. and after dating for almost 5 months i suspect he broke up with her for WoW related problems. And the worst thing about it is he is a great athlete. He used to run the 400 Meter in under 50 seconds and placed among the top in the state and even went to college for track but not any more…. and he is a good looking (was ripped) guy. The worst part about this situation is he admits he is addicted and has a problem. So i dont know what to do. it seems like he is turning me away or trying to make me give up on him so he can be with his game without guilt from me. and so he can be more comfortable with himself. Can any one help me. He just turned 21 last saturday and we have talked about what we were going to do on our twenty first since 15. and instead of hanging out with me and the boys he decided he wanted to make a trip to vancover washington ( the night of his 21st) to meet some guy he has never met that is in his guild ( the guy is like 35). so of course I said screw you just go cause i couldn’t make him change his mind. My friend has become a no body with no friends and doesn’t even care. I dont know what to do but I know that i will never give up on him no matter how much he wants me to. can any one help?

P.S I speak from experience… I was addicted to Call of Duty 4 for over a year. I too made every excuss possible to be with the game but quit before i lost a grip on my girlfriend of three years and my friends….. I broke my x box, controllers and the game. I had 60,000 kills and a 3.19 kill/death ratio. so i was pretty decent.

I have come to the conclusion that video games are becoming the new drug of our generation. and since it isn’t proven addictive or illegal, the people that try to help the addicts have no ground to stand on.
Mark my words in the next 5 years video game addiction will become a psychologically recognized illness and it will eventually become a world wide epidemic. Just wait and see!!!