Good points. And I like your humorous approach. But, as a coach and consultant, I’ve seen these nice-guy/nice-gal approaches fail time after time.

Let’s assume no one higher up will do anything.

Eric tried the typical “let’s be professional-friendly approaches.” These don’t work with determined bullies. Dedicated bullies won’t stop. They won’t be changed by reasoning, logical, appeals to their better nature, bribery, begging or ignoring what they’re doing. Usually, bullying has gotten them ahead.

Don’t waste your time trying to understand or explain why they do it. Determined bullies don’t take your understanding and acquiescing as kindness. They take your giving in as weakness and an invitation to assault you harder.

I encourage bullied employees not to wait for laws to help them. Get courageous, strong and persevering. Accept that you’re in a war and fight to win. Get allies and coaches. Make a plan that fits your situation. Try to isolate and decrease the power of the bullies. Catch them making mistakes. Embarrass them. Document, document, document.

If you can’t change them, get out and get a better life.

What’s the price of tolerating bullies? Slow erosion of your soul!

Check out my books, CDs and blog posts at http://www.BulliesBeGone.com.

Best wishes,
Ben